At 4:00AM I receive
a call. Mom-to-be is very uncomfortable and on her
way to the Birth Center.
I call a substitute for my 7:30AM Yoga class, walk
the dog, grab my music, large body pillow, birth ball,
hot water bottle, a bottle of water for myself and
drive off into the early morning quiet darkness.
Upon my arrival I find first time mom is a little
panicked, therefore breathing short radical breaths.
Before even putting down my purse I get her breathing
long deep breaths that keep her and her body calm.
She has her own hot water bottle placed just under
her belly and is now breathing long deep breaths.
Dad in on one side and I am on the other massaging
her gently with light long strokes. Her eyes are closed
and she is focused on the positive phrases about her
and her body working naturally. I calmly say these
phrases with each stroke. Peaceful music is playing
in the background and lavender is in the air.
Baby is born about noon. The whole family is gathered
around taking pictures, crying and making mom, dad
and baby feel so loved. A baby boy is born peacefully
and placed on mom's belly. Mom and Dad kiss and profess
great love to each other and the baby while waiting
for the cord to stop pulsating.
Dad cuts the cord and kisses mom again. He then takes
the baby in his arms looking into his eyes watching
every nuance with admiration. The baby is healthy
and alert watching everyone intently.
My moment comes when much to my surprise mom remembers
me telling someone that my real pay comes when I get
just a minute to hold the baby.
She asks the family to take pictures as I hold the
baby. There are no words to describe the feeling I
have for the babies whose births I attend. I float
out of the birth center and call my mom and niece
to tell them about the new baby.
The words that go through my mind are, I am the richest
woman in the world.
I am also a volunteer Doula at a major medical center.
I get to work with women who are afraid and don't
know about Doulas but leave with the world Doula on
their lips forever.
• I can unstall a labor sometimes in minutes
of my arrival.
• I can turn pain into some discomfort.
• I can help women to breath and enjoy the birth
• I can help Dads to feel comfortable and confident
with their role during birth.
If mom and dad are happy my guess is baby will be
happy and begin life feeling love and joy. I deeply
appreciate the moms and dads who allow me to be a
part of one of life's most precious events. I must
also be one of the luckiest women in the world because
I get the most special moms and dads.
I usually see moms and dads four times in their home
before the birth. I teach them deep relaxing techniques,
answer questions and help to dispel fears and myths.
Dads tell me what kind of a role they want to play
in the process and I assure them I will support them.
I am amazed at how they perform during the births.
Sometimes mom's support is a grandmother or aunt and
sometimes mom is alone. I believe my calm strength
helps moms to have a great experience with birth of
baby whatever the circumstance.
Grandmother always wishes she had had a Doula.